The turnaround
22 July 07 · 1:37 amIt’s not a secret that I used to suffer from very low self-esteem. It was the result of many factors, as most cases are, but the sad thing is that it created a fundamentally flawed way of thinking. I believed that because people didn’t treat me well, that I wasn’t a good person, and that I didn’t deserve to be treated well. I’d try to envision their point of view and rationalize why they were behaving that way, and in the end, I’d come around to blaming myself. But the thing is, I can’t control what other people do, think, or feel and I can’t point the finger at myself all the time. They can have a litany of legitimate excuses for their behavior, yet sometimes the most important thing might be that…I deserve better. Otherwise, it was never really friendship in the first place.
Jul
'07
Hello and congratulations on the new blog, new ways of thinking . . . I hope this new start works well for you.
Cheers,
-danny
Jul
'07
‘no one can make you feel inferior without your permission’..
i read that in a book before and i think it’s really a good phase..
you do deserve better.. =)
Jul
'07
Oh! Your new layout is absolutely lovely. I am very jealous of your skeelz, Miss Elea.
“…..yet sometimes the most important thing might be that… I deserve better.”
Yes, you do deserve better. I feel the same way and one of the worst things is that I now get very suspicious of people (read: MEN) who come up to say hello to me. I don’t like the attention and wonder to myself why on earth they would be interested in someone like me. It’s gotten to the point where I sometimes don’t even believe my fiance when he tells me he loves my body or says I’m beautiful.
Jul
'07
I have a friend who always makes me feel inferior, but I always try my best not to let her comments get to me. Somehow, I believe that individuals out there who attempt to make other people feel inferior are actually insecure of themselves, thus their behaviour.
I like the quote that Crystal quoted in her comment.